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13th-Jun-2009 06:59 am(no subject)
We are rid of the minivan that keeps breaking down, and now have a 2006 Odyssey in the garage, with a nice warranty.  I think we're going to be very happy - thank you for all the advice.
11th-Jun-2009 07:56 pm(no subject)
We're looking at getting a new car.  We have loved this van (2005 Chrysler Town and Country) except for the fact that the air conditioning has broken at least once a year - this is the 3rd time this year.  We just got the car back again today and I'm calling it quits.  Goodbye sliding doors, stow and go seats.  We've spent 1/2 the value of the car (or more) fixing it in the last 3 months.  I. Am. Done.

Replacement options at this point: 2005-2008 minivans - Honda or Toyota...or a large SUV - Expedition or Yukon.  Same years.  Consumer reports doesn't give high marks to buying any large SUVs used, which worries me, and we can't come close to affording that sized car new.  Or, really, any of those options new at this point.  They do recommend the Honda and Toyota minivans, however.  Part of me just wants to get the minivan, even though we'll need to upsize in a couple of years - we'll be saving money in a car payment and gas now.  On the other hand, the big would be nice, and I'd love to have a car to drive into the ground and las tme for 10 years.

Of course, I thought we'd have this minivan for at least 10 years, too.

Ha ha.

Any thoughts?  Do any of you have or know about those cars in or around those model years?  I'm really nervous about buying used again, since we got so burned with this car, and it was just months old, bought from a car rental place.
4th-Jan-2009 10:29 am(no subject)
We are home.  Drove the whole thing in 1 day and with our breaks for Ainsley's 1st blow out, lunch at In-n-Out (drive thru), a quick stop for dinner (to grab and eat in the car) and another bathroom break, it took 11 hours.  Really not bad at all.  We got home at about 9:30 so we just unloaded the car into the family room and kitchen and now I have a royal mess to clean.  I won't be surprised if it takes me 2-3 hours.

I am itching to get Christmas put away and start "spring cleaning" in January.  With the cold and being stuck in the house, plus with all the germs we've been sharing, I'm anxious to have everything really deep cleaned.  I probably won't be able to start that for at least a few days, if not a week, just because of unpacking, putting away Christmas, and the normal chores.

Ainsley is really fighting her naps today.  I love vacation, but this one pretty much stunk with everyone being so sick.  and then to come home and have to get the kids back on a sleep schedule?  Ick.
1st-Jan-2009 11:00 am - 2008

1. What was the single best thing that happened this past year?

Ainsley was born.  Also, I had no ppd this time.  Huge.

2. What was the single most challenging thing that happened?

Learning to parent 3 kids well - giving each the attention they need, discipline that is appropriate and love that is plentiful - and keep a home that (I believe) is too big for us.  It’s a lot of work.

3. What was an unexpected joy this past year?

Breastfeeding.  After nursing Jacob for 9 long and often miserable months, I adored most every minute of breastfeeding Ainsley, and was so sad when she quit at 6 months.

4. What was an unexpected obstacle?

I have 2 and I can not pick one over the other.

1) Managing with a husband who was home, but not present.  We thought we had everything figured out with Nathan working from home, and then this summer he had a huge project he had to work on 12-14+ hours per day, 5 and 6 days a week for about 4 months this year, from the time Ainsley was born until Fall.  It was a huge challenge to have him in the house, but unable to help while I was learning to manage our new, larger family.

2)  The boys have had really terrible behavior issues and I’ve become angry - yelling at them and even spanking.  I hate that part of myself.  It has been a huge challenge for me to figure out how to parent them the way they need, teach them, discipline them appropriately and control my anger.  Worst of all, I’m nowhere closer to figuring things out than I was 6 months ago.  I don’t want to become my mom.

5. Pick three words to describe 2008.

Joy, Learn, Introspect

6. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe your 2008 (don’t ask them; guess based on how you think your spouse sees you).

challenging, happy, and I honestly have no clue for the 3rd!

7. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe their 2008 (again, without asking).

stressful (work), happy (Ainsley’s birth), fun (we took 2 great vacations)

8. What were the best books you read this year?

These is My Words, and The Holy Secret.  I read 32 books this year, which is so little compared to previous years.

9. With whom were your most valuable relationships?

Nathan, my children, friends Heidi and Melanie.  My sister, Stacy.

10. What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year?

The end of the pregnancy was really hard; I had to go back on Prozac for serious anxiety issues.  I was sick the entire pregnancy.  Since then, my weight - again - has been a major challenge and frustration.

11. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally?

Wow.  Not enough.  I wonder if I did grow emotionally.

12. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually?

Again, not enough.  I feel like my prayer life and scripture habits have slipped considerably, and that is a huge focus for me right now - getting all of that back on track and where I feel like I need to be and to see how far I can reach.

13. In what way(s) did you grow physically?

Oh, gosh - how about this, I did grow physically.  My belly became swollen while growing my baby, and then, after only gaining 8 lbs during my pregnancy, my body has grown to 10 lbs over my delivery day weight.  Not good.

14. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationships with others?

This is something I really need to focus on next year.  I was so inwardly focused this year.  I felt like a hermit while sick and cranky and pregnant, and then I’ve not nurtured more than my 3 close friendships past baby.  I’ve just survived and tried to take care of my family.

15. What was the most enjoyable area of managing your home?

We finished our basement.  That was huge.  I feel like I got a pretty good routine down for menu planning, weekly cleaning, and deep cleaning.  They are things I enjoy when they’re in control.

16. What was your most challenging area of home management?

Finishing the basement.  Nathan was so slow moving his office from Ainsley’s bedroom to his new office downstairs, and being as it was heavy furniture, it wasn’t something I could step in and do alone.  It really screwed up our house for a couple months, and interfered with my routines.

17. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?

The internet.  Hands down.  Something I’ve been doing well at spending less time on the past month.

18. What was the best way you used your time this past year?

Holding my baby.  Reading to my children.  Snuggling the littles who will not be so little much longer.

19. What was the biggest thing you learned this past year?

To relax about house things.  The house does not always have to be totally clean all the time.  It will be okay.

20. Create a phrase or statement that describes 2008 for you.

Later, I’m tired.

31st-Dec-2008 01:14 pm(no subject)
This has been a crazy vacation.  We decided to come to my parents house for New Years and take the kids to the Rose Parade. The boys just love parades, and I haven't been to the Rose Parade for...over 20 years, I believe.

We meant to leave Friday at noon and split the 12 hour drive over 2 days.  I sent Nathan to the basement to grab something out of the cold storage, where he discovered a leak.  the snow was melting on the porch and a crack in the cement was leaking into the basement.  Thank heavens it wasn't the finished part of the basement, but I still lost a whole box of kids books, a 25 lbs bag of oats, a big bag of flour and a ton of pasta (in boxes - like the Pasta Roni the boys love).  I was bummed and frustrated but SO thankful that we found it before we left and it didn't sit for a week, perhaps seeping to the carpet on the other side of the door.  That would have been a nightmare.

We left the house 6 pm Friday and drove to St. George, spent the night in the worst Motel 6 ever ever (the only hotel we could find in a few phone calls that would let the dog stay) and then got to my parents house around 3 Saturday to meet my sister's new FIANCE.   The boys love him.  His name is James, but Joshua kept calling him "Emily".  I think Josh knew that "this guy has a Thomas-character name, but I can't remember which character".  Josh is all straightened out now.

Monday, 10:30 at night, I woke up to Ainsley throwing up, sat up thinking "uh, oh, I don't feel so well" and lost it.  I was sick over and over until about 3:30 am when I finally fell asleep and my mom and dad took over.  Nathan got it last night. I'm feeling worlds better, but what a crappy way to spend vacation - especially since it's so warm and beautiful outside.

Before the sick happened on Monday we took the kids to the La Brea tar pits ("targ pits" according to Jacob) and had a picnic on the grass and climbed trees.  It was 80.  I got a touch of a sunburn.  It was fabulous.

We'll be here until the end of the week, and just need to check the weather to see if there are any big storms we need to plan our drive around.

Hope everyone has a good New Year.

10th-Sep-2008 10:44 am - Ainsley Update
I love our pediatrician. Wish he was the one I talked to first.

"So what if she's only gained 6 ounces in 6 weeks?  Babies don't grow as quickly after 2 months old.  That rapid weight gain is only really necessary in the very beginning.  She's 10 lbs 11 ounces.  She's in the 5th percentile.  Especially for her 5 lb birth weight, that is really very good.  You're exclusively nursing, right?  Keep it up, and don't worry about starting solids yet.  I'd wait for at least another month.  She's healthy, she's hitting enough developmental targets.  Just don't worry and keep up the good work."

I love that doctor. 

Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts on my post yesterday.  You are very appreciated.
9th-Sep-2008 04:22 pm(no subject)
If only *I* had this problem.

Ainsley isn't gaining weight as she should be, according to the doctors.  I guess that "average" is 4-7 ounces a week.  She has gained 6 ounces in 6 weeks, and they wanted to see at least a 1 1/2 lb weight gain.  Soooo...we have an appointment with the doctor tomorrow morning for her.

The issue here is not that she's a lightweight (which she is at 10 lbs 11 oz at almost 4 months).  She has gained 5 lbs 10 oz since birth, which is great.  the issue is that her weight gain has slowed significantly in the past 6 weeks.

I have to admit that I'm feeling like it's all my fault. She appears to be healthy.  She is beautiful (says her biased mother) and happy.  She is just an itty-bitty. She gets 99.9% breastmilk, so I'm feeling that if only I made better milk, she would be gaining better and we wouldn't have this problem.

wwpostergirl , didn't you have this issue with one of yours?  Did anyone else?  Is there anything I need to know or anythign I need to do to be prepared for tomorrow's appointment?  

20th-May-2008 06:20 am(no subject)
Will you help me with a gift idea?  The nurses at the hospital are out of this world.  Not one has been "just fine" - every nurse Ainsley or I have had have been fabulous.  I would like to take something to the nurses station as a thank you, since we're going to be here for a bit, and since I can't give individual gifts to the nurses; we have both had 2 nurses each shift since we've been here.  (By the way, I am officially not a patient anymore, but am renting a room in the hospital so I can be here to nurse.) 

I was hoping you all might have suggestions on something thoughtful, yet reasonably priced.  Our budget is tight right now, but I don't want to miss out on saying thank you to these wonderful nurses.  Thank you!!
17th-May-2008 04:21 pm - I'm in the hospital!
My water broke at 10:15 this morning.  Thank goodness it was AFTER I got home from Target and Wal-Mart!  It's currently 4:25.  I haven't been checked since 2:15, when I was at a 3.  I'll be updating my blog with more info and the BIG announcement when she gets here!

28th-Feb-2008 06:26 pm - chocolate cupcake lollipops
I hope more than Lauren enjoys these pics, but I know Lauren will LOVE them!

Found via Bakerella.  I can not wait to try to recreate these!
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